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In the seven years I have been an entrepreneur, I have learned a thing or two about succeeding (and failing) as a business owner and a mom. When you don’t apply or follow these keys, business and life is a huge struggle that saps your energy, focus, and can make you want to throw your hands up and quit. On the other hand, when you do follow them, everything just seems simpler and runs better (not always easier – you are still running a business). So whether you are considering launching a business, in the start-up phase, or working on growing your business, these keys are all applicable.
It breaks my heart to see and hear so many parents who want to be more involved in raising their children and yet feel trapped in their current situation unable to make a change. It’s as if they are standing on the edge of a cliff and can see the promised land, but just don’t know how to get there.
When I talk with my friends who are still working full-time, they often will say, “I wish I could run a business from home like you do, but…”
“… I would never make as much as I do now.”
“… I have no idea what I would do or how to start.”
“… I just don’t have the discipline.”
“… my spouse would never go for it.”
“… it seems so risky.”
Maybe you’ve said this, or something similar. The problem is, they are all lies.
When you talk to people about making a change in their life, exercising more, quitting smoking, starting a business, there is usually some type of pain they are trying to heal.
Ever heard the saying, “People change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change?”
My friends that have left their jobs to be stay-at-home moms did so because it was too painful for them to have someone else raising their child. When my dad had to have a stent put in, he quit smoking and started eating healthier. This was my driving force when I started my consulting firm nearly seven years ago, I hated that my husband and I were away from our, then, infant son for 12 hours a day. Practically all we were doing was giving him a place to sleep.
Some of you may be in that place right now; you want to make a change because you just can’t keep going on the way you are. By making a change and taking action, (going to the gym, not smoking, attending a starting your business seminar) you begin to heal that pain.
If you’re like most people, by the end of January, you will have abandoned your New Year’s resolutions and gone back to your same routine from last year.
Even with the best intentions, we slip up and go back to the familiar, what feels comfortable or what we are used to. I’ve done it myself – most specifically with this blog.
But here’s how to make 2013 different. How you can be the one who does achieve their goals this year.
(And may I just say, I am preaching to myself and am doing all of this right along with you.)
As I look around at my neighbors, acquaintances, and the people who work for some of my clients, I see a lot of people living life as though they are just filler. Their whole existence seems to consist of getting up, going to work, doing enough to not get fired, going home, tending to a couple family things, going to sleep, and then repeating the whole thing the next day. When you ask them about their day or what’s new, they reply – in a very monotone voice – “Fine.” or “Not much.”
When I see them, I sometimes feel like their physical movement is the only thing that proves they are alive. And maybe that’s true, because their spirit certainly seems to have died.
In my last post I said the first step you need to take to start living life is deciding that is what you want. It’s the next step where I see many people falter. The second step is to begin taking action today towards your goal. All too often, I talk with people that have excuses as to why they can’t start a business and leave their jobs. If they work three more years, they’ll be vested for their stock options, then they can start a business. They’re up for a promotion, even though they hate managing people, then they’ll have the money for a business. After they get the next quarter’s bonus and put on that new deck, then they’ll think about starting a new business.
And on, and on, and on it goes.