It breaks my heart to see and hear so many parents who want to be more involved in raising their children and yet feel trapped in their current situation unable to make a change. It’s as if they are standing on the edge of a cliff and can see the promised land, but just don’t know how to get there.
When I talk with my friends who are still working full-time, they often will say, “I wish I could run a business from home like you do, but…”
“… I would never make as much as I do now.”
“… I have no idea what I would do or how to start.”
“… I just don’t have the discipline.”
“… my spouse would never go for it.”
“… it seems so risky.”
Maybe you’ve said this, or something similar. The problem is, they are all lies.
I had posted a question on The Naptime CEO Facebook page about which characteristic of the Proverbs 31 woman is your favorite. Surprisingly, some of the responses were that she hires people to help. This is a topic that is full of conflict for many moms.
If I asked you if you could use help around your house, how many of you would say yes?
Now, how many of you would feel guilty for having someone else come in to help around your house?
I fully admit I need help around the house, but for the longest time I felt like I was failing as a wife/mother/business owner if I didn’t do it all myself. The problem was I wasn’t getting any of it done well.
Do you remember being a child and what you wanted to be when you grew up?
I remember wanting to be “on the stage,” a paleontologist, and a truck driver (no lie!).
Entrepreneur was never on my list, although I am often “on the stage.” 🙂
What is fascinating to me is how we as parents influence our children, just by the type of work we pursue. I grew up in a home with parents who worked traditional jobs just like all my friends’ parents. My dad worked in construction and my mom worked in a doctor’s office once my sister and I were both in school. So growing up, I remember playing “college” and putting on performances on our back deck.
Ahh, it’s that blissful time of day when your little one has gone down for a nap. So what should you do with the next hour and a half? (or more if you’re lucky) Resist the temptation to nap yourself and try this list.
Remember: it’s not just the difference we are trying to make in the world through our careers, but the difference we are trying to make in our children’s lives as their parent. You can do that consciously or unconsciously, but either way, good or bad, everything we do makes a difference. I choose to be deliberate about it, how about you?
When you talk to people about making a change in their life, exercising more, quitting smoking, starting a business, there is usually some type of pain they are trying to heal.
Ever heard the saying, “People change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change?”
My friends that have left their jobs to be stay-at-home moms did so because it was too painful for them to have someone else raising their child. When my dad had to have a stent put in, he quit smoking and started eating healthier. This was my driving force when I started my consulting firm nearly seven years ago, I hated that my husband and I were away from our, then, infant son for 12 hours a day. Practically all we were doing was giving him a place to sleep.
Some of you may be in that place right now; you want to make a change because you just can’t keep going on the way you are. By making a change and taking action, (going to the gym, not smoking, attending a starting your business seminar) you begin to heal that pain.
If you’re like most people, by the end of January, you will have abandoned your New Year’s resolutions and gone back to your same routine from last year.
Even with the best intentions, we slip up and go back to the familiar, what feels comfortable or what we are used to. I’ve done it myself – most specifically with this blog.
But here’s how to make 2013 different. How you can be the one who does achieve their goals this year.
(And may I just say, I am preaching to myself and am doing all of this right along with you.)